Tuesday, July 19, 2011

His First Priority

A man's first priority is to make a living.  If you are anything like I use to be you think his first priority should be you, but it is not. 

His curse was ~ "cursed is the ground because of you; In toil you shall eat of it all the days of your life.  Both thorns and thistles it shall grow for you; and you shall eat the plants of the field;  by the sweat of your face you shall eat bread, till you return to the ground." (Genesis 3:17-19) 

This is a heavy burden that men must carry all the days of their lives.  A woman's first priority is to be his help meet,  "It is not good for the man to be alone;  I will made him a help meet suitable for him."  (Genesis 2:18)  Her curse had to do with childbearing...pain.

When I had four children in five and a half years, Ken was traveling a lot.  He was gone half the year.  I would be upset with him for working so hard.  I thought he should show me he loved me by being romantic with me and helping a lot more with the children.  I didn't understand that his way of showing love to us was to work hard and provide for us.  Now I understand.

If your husband works a lot and is missing a lot of activities, your children will take on your attitude.  If you grumble and complain, your children will have a bad attitude towards their dad.  However, if you tell them that he is working so hard so they can have their needs met and telling them how wonderful he is for sacrificing like that for them, they will grow up to admire and love their dad.

Ken's dad worked very hard and wasn't home much.  He never told Ken that he loved him or threw a ball with him, but Ken knew that his dad loved him.  His mother never spoke an unkind word about her husband.  They never argued.  He was the head of the family and they all knew it.  All the children had a deep respect for their dad and admired him.

If you have a husband that is working hard to provide a living for you, thank him.  Appreciate him and try making his life at home as peaceful and loving as possible.  It's a hard world out there.  They live with a lot of stress.  They need a help meet to help make their life a little bit easier.

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